Monday, May 31, 2010

The latest, at 32 weeks and 5 days.

Hello everyone! It's Nerdstar again and we are headed towards Noah Maxx's delivery! He has been really active and his head has also been pointing southwards so that means that he's getting ready to get out of the belly. I have no idea whether or not he'll come early or later than his due date, but as long as he's healthy and delivered safely, I won't be that worried.

Am I anxious about the delivery? Of course! This is something that I've never experienced before and not knowing what my pain/discomfort threshold is, you bet I'm feeling some anxieties! We did not opt to take childbirth classes due to the fact that our hospital was not offering them and also we didn't want to go through the trouble of traveling somewhere further to get these classes. Besides, there had been plenty of babies born without the moms having been through these classes.

I've been quite lucky so far in regard to how easy this pregnancy have been. I've never had any morning sickness, had to go on bed rest, or had to be monitored closely due to medical reasons, and so most of me is expecting that Noah Maxx's delivery will be smooth too. I'm not saying that I've not had any discomfort. I have swollen ankles, bouts of low energy, and just a few weeks ago, a massive allergy attack of my skin, but really nothing that bad.

Thanks to the GF, she had been letting me take it really easy and doing most of the driving on weekends when we'd go somewhere. Not only that, she has also been doing most of the reading on childcare and education whereas I have simply been working and growing Noah Maxx :-)

Needless to say, we cannot wait to see and hold our boy!

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Baby Advice Books

So far I've read two books, The Happiest Baby on the Block and then Babywise II months 5 through 15 (I think it's 15.) I have The Happiest Toddler but haven't read it, and am waiting on the Babywise infant book from the library.

In some ways these two sets of books are opposites. So it was kinda funny/brain hurting to read them back to back.

The premise of Happiest Baby for infants is that babies need a 4th trimester, but due to head sizes of humans don't get it. Therefore, for really fussy babies - and the book seems to be mostly for fussy/colic babies more so than happy ones - you need to do these 5 magic things to get them to self calm. The idea is that until about six months it's impossible to spoil the baby or set bad habits, so make the baby happy.

Babywise is all about moral development, I gather even in infants, and the parents setting the schedule and rules. It reads a little cold, but there does seem to be some good practical suggestions in there. It's written by Christians, which I suppose could annoy readers who aren't. Then again, with some of the ideas, the few Christian parts might not be the most annoying parts.

But really, until Noah Maxx is born, and we know what his personality is, there's no way to know what's going to work best for him.

Because it only took a few hours to read them both, I'd say it was worth the time.

Tuesday, May 18, 2010

Seriously Shy!

Hooray!! We finally got to see our cute boy! Of course, he had his fist planted in his eye 80% of the time. Then, because that wasn't enough to hide behind, he added his legs and feet up by his face, too! Wow, to be that flexible!!

Here he at least moved his hand to upside his head...

And here he's trying to put his foot up his nose.

He's measuring perfectly dead average for his age. That's good. Next time we see him he'll finally be outside the belly. We can't wait!

Sunday, May 16, 2010

The baby shower

On Saturday afternoon, we had a baby shower for Noah Maxx at a friend's house nearby. The funny thing was that the friend who had arranged everything switched the starting time of the baby shower at the last minute, from 2 to 3 PM so that there will be ample amount of time for her own little girl (her daughter is 18 months old.) to have a nap. Of course, and GF and I didn't know about this, so we showed up at her place about an hour early.

One person bailed at the last minute because she had a last minute closing on her new house, and another thought that the baby shower was at our place so she drove all the way to our place....finding it empty. She got really tired from all the traffic and decided that she didn't want to go any further. She did leave the baby's gifts at our house prior to departure though.

There were four people who came to the shower, one was a colleague from work, another was this girl that I had deployed to Iraq with, and the last two were a friend of mine from my reserve unit and his sometimes girlfriend. We chatted, had this enormous chocolate marble cake, had this really good citrus punch, and some other snack foods. Since we really don't have a lot of friends, I'm just grateful for the ones who did make it!

We didn't play silly games during the shower, which was just the way that the GF and I had intended. When our friend's baby girl got up, I went into her room and changed her and brought her out, baby Jo is such a good baby! She was friendly and receptive to everyone there! Our Ramen dog (we brought him to the baby shower, since our friend also have a dog that's pretty friendly.) was on his best behavior, getting everyone to pet him and letting baby Jo play with him.

We're really thankful for all the stuff that we had gotten at the shower! We got some of Jo's clothes, baby carrier, a baby rocker (they will be returned when our friend has her second little one.), lots of baby clothes, baby bottles, baby wash, baby shampoo, gift certificates to babies r us, and some great advice from the people from the shower written in this spiral notebook.

I was really surprised that we had gotten that many gifts for Noah Maxx! We were also amazed about how many things that a baby needs right when it's born! The reality is setting in ever so much more that, in 66 days, our little man will be here!

I will write about the rest of the weekend in my next entry, it's getting late and both the GF and I will have get some zzzzz's in before we hit work!

Friday, May 14, 2010

Handsome and Naked!

Nope, not Noah Maxx (although I'm sure he is!!)

It's Ramen dog:

Wednesday, May 12, 2010


Thank God this wasn't literal!!

Here's the last piece of furniture for Noah Maxx's room - the glider. (That's Ramen dog failing to get out of the way.)

Monday, May 10, 2010

Take Your Pick

We finally met with the lawyer Saturday. She's very good. She still thinks that if it's at all possible we should delivery Pinhead in DC. Apparently DC has a fairly new law that's very beneficial to lesbian couples. (It doesn't help gay men because of something to do with surrogacy that I didn't really pay much attention to.) It seems that not only can I be on the birth certificate, we can also go to a judge and get a judgment ruling me as a parent. This is helpful because all states have to honor judgments.

Ok, so that's all good. But babies don't come on schedules - and we're finding it would be so much more helpful if they did!! We don't know when to schedule family to be here. They're not coming for the actual birth, but within the first month, so that's not terrible to schedule, but still.

But it seems there's going to be four possible hospitals we could end up at. There's the one close to home that we're mostly planning on. Then there's the one close to her office in case she literally works up to the last minute. Her commute to and from work can take from an hour to an hour and a half depending on traffic. So we're also putting the one halfway between work and home in the Garmin.

Now, the closest hospital is fifteen to twenty minutes - depending on time of day and red lights.

In optimum conditions, say at 2 a.m., we could be at the hospital in DC in forty minutes. That's certainly do-able.

The problem with not delivering at the hospital closest to home is that we're 90% sure none of the ob/gyn's we've been meeting with would deliver the baby. (We're going to ask at the next appointment.) But we're also pretty sure that's ok with us. We've met with each of the different ones once so far, and it's not like we're going to be attached to any of them.

The insurance company said all four hospitals are in-network, and that yes, you don't always know where you'll end up.

So the plan for now is to get to DC if at all possible, if not - well, whichever is closest.

Friday, May 7, 2010

New Belly Pics

Such a cute little round belly! If I put my ear against it, I can actually hear his thumping heart beat. I still smile every time I feel him wiggling around in there. Poor thing, I know it's got to be hard to get comfy! Nerdstar thinks it's funny that when we snuggle, he kicks me in the butt!

Last night he was kicking her bladder, so I tried moving him over away from it. Instead of moving, he stayed put and kicked her bladder even harder. Stubborn boy! I laughed.

Wednesday, May 5, 2010

Done For Now

I assembled the skinny shelves yesterday and the two wider ones today Thankfully they were really easy!

This weekend we'll go get the glider/rocking chair and then we'll be done.

Monday, May 3, 2010

Noah Maxx's Room So Far

This is the Ikea crib we put together yesterday. It was actually really easy to assemble, except that 4 of the screws were 1/4 inch too short, so we had to make a quick trip to Home Depot to get the right size. I'd rather deal with Home Depot than Ikea to get 4 screws.

We got this bumper at Ikea, too. We liked the fun animals.

The table and lamp are also Ikea. I actually put the table together by myself while Nerdstar napped.

Ok, so this is the toy box. My Dad made me this toy box when I was very, little. It's been several colors. I got the bright idea to paint it like this about 8 years ago when we first tried to have a baby. It's been an eyesore - but now it finally has a little boy's room to live in and liven up!

I had intended to get a white ceiling fan, then I saw this at Home Depot and once I got it home decided that using the four primary colors would sort of match the toy box and be kinda cool. It's all reversible, so it could be all white if necessary.

Last, but not least, this is a collection of stuffed animals I've had forever. Guess we'll see if he likes any of them.

Saturday, May 1, 2010

And now....

You didn't think this blog was going to be 100% about how smooth this pregnancy has been so far, did you?

Thankfully, for the most part, my pregnancy has been obstacles morning sickness, huge upswings in weight, but as I venture into the third trimester, I am hitting some snags.

(This is the TMI part) Case in point, I think I've got my first brush with pregnancy hemorrhoid, and how I found out was as I wiped my rear from what I had thought was the conclusion of a bowel movement, there were blood (and lots of it) on the toilet paper!! Not only that, some of that blood had made its way into the toilet too. Not wanting to panic prematurely, I checked to make sure that the blood was coming from "the right place". The GF then checked WebMd to see what it is and assessed what we would do if the heavy bleeding continued...thankfully, it didn't.

Welcome to the third trimester!

It doesn't end here! Before I forget, I must tell you about the rashes which appeared on my chest, and part of my neck! I have no idea what they are, all I know is that they are itching a bit and I hope that they'll disappear soon, otherwise, I might just need to page the skin doc and see what's up.

Lastly, my "sensitive" region has been itching....and I have no idea why either. I called the ob/gyn nurse, who advised me to take benedryl for 5 days and if it's not getting better, then call back for an appointment.

Luckily, Noah Maxx is still active and wiggly despite all of my irritations. To which I hope that they'll only be temporary!