Sunday, January 27, 2013

Noah Update and Thoughts on Parenting

I am almost always trying to compose new entries for this here blog.  As you can see, they haven't made it out of my head too often lately.

I'll start with, wow, I thought kids had growth spurts in between times of staying the same size for a while.  Not Noah.  I swear he's constantly growing.  He just seems to slowly always be outgrowing his clothes.

We joke that our dearly departed cat Little Man has somehow inhabited Noah.  When we got Little Man as a kitten, he had huge paws and we knew he was going to be a big cat.  In the past month or so, Noah's hands and feet have gotten noticeably bigger!  On a stranger note, Little Man also loved to hop in the shower when we'd get out of it and drink all the water.  Well, Noah had this habit of waiting until the water drained out of his bath  and then trying to slurp up what was left.

Every night, Nerdstar bathes Noah.  Most nights I'll come up and help a little and hang out with them after bath time.  On the nights Noah runs out of the bathroom and down the hall naked, I think, "Heh, I finally have my own Calvin!"  Although, it seems he might be an equal mix of Calvin and Hobbes.  He's a sweet boy.

Disclaimer:  These next thoughts are representative of exactly two people and imply no judgement on anyone else's way of parenting.

We spend a lot of time post bath talking about Noah, and being parents, and how to raise him.  I am so glad that Nerdstar and I really share most of the same ideas on parenting.  I've always wanted to keep it as simple as possible.  I want my overriding goal to be HAVE FUN.

One idea we run across is that of "toughening up" kids.  Letting them cry it out.  Putting them out into the "real world" to learn to deal with other people and situations.  I'm not a big fan of that idea.

I spent the first five years of my life mostly at home with my mother.  My brother wasn't born until I was five.  I was never in daycare.  I started school with kindergarten.  There were no play dates.   I did just fine when I did start school.  Nerdstar also spent her first years at home with parents and/or grandparents until she started school.  We're in no hurry to put Noah out into the world.  He's a sweet, happy boy.  He does well with people and will talk with strangers.  He still likes watching older kids play, even if he doesn't exactly "play" with kids his own age - that's still normal for two year olds.

A lot of this is that he's still just a little boy.  He's just about to be 2 1/2.  He will have a life time of the real world.  Even a year from now will be different.  But we're in no hurry.

The other thing we talk a lot about is education.  I think I'll save that for a later entry.


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