Job Change

As the time for Ching to be home from work nears, Noah and I are closing out an great week in a very long summer of the first five years of his life and the end of my dream job - being a stay-at-home mom.  I feel like I'll be more of a house wife than SAHM, but it's really just semantics. (Twenty years ago, I would state that my goal was to be a kept woman... being a SAHM is not quite the same thing, heh.)

I've had a hard time this week wondering if I've done a good job.  How much more could I have done?  What should I have done differently?  You know...  The result of my work is who Noah is.  And although I can't take all the credit, I tend to take quite a bit.  He's happy.  He's polite.   He's just a good kid overall.  What more could I ask for?

No, this isn't the end of parenting.  But it is the end of this specific phase of life.

We also did the week right.  We went to Kids N Motion, Chuck E Cheese, the playground, and the water park.  We ate lots of chicken nuggets and french fries and drank lemonade.  We watched the Lego Movie a time or two a day.  All before Ma got home every evening.

I've told him I'm going to miss him while he's at school.  He doesn't know what I mean, really.  But I trust he feels it. 

Kindergarten and "Good" Schools

Noah's school had open house last night, so we got to go see the school, his classroom, and meet his teacher and classmates.  He is so, so excited and ready for school to start.  We were there from 3:30 to 5:30 (part of the time we were in the library hearing from the principal and he was back in the classroom with the kids) and he didn't want to leave when it was time to go home.  His teacher seems really nice and ready to handle a lot of kindergarteners. 

I've written over the years how I feel about public schools and such.  And I wrote about how much we loved and appreciated Noah's teachers and school last year.  As the start of school has gotten closer these past couple of weeks, and back to school is the most common topic on FB and even sometimes for Ching at work, the idea of "good" schools is something Ching and I talk about. 

I'm sure the reality of Noah being a special ed boy - even to the small degree that he is - helps shape my thoughts.  As does the fact that he loves kids and school so much. 

So our goal for Noah this school year is very simple - that he continues to love going to school and enjoying it and that he makes friends.  Will he learn how to write better, and how to read, and things like that.  Of course.  Is that important, sure.  It's just not our biggest concern. 

When we bought our house we, we bought the nicest, least expensive house we thought we could afford.  That means we live in the blue collar, working class part of the huge DC metro (as opposed to the "thinking" class that dominates this area).  Our house cost 1/3 or 1/4 of what most of Ching's co-workers cost.  We thought we'd live in it for three or four years and then finally be moving out of the DC area all together.  Nope.  We also didn't care about schools and such because we didn't know we'd be having Noah. 

We like our house, we don't absolutely love it, but we're doing the improvements that make us happy.  I love that we're in a cul de sac and that there are two or three neighbor kids for Noah to play with sometimes.  I love the trees and the quiet.  And I appreciate the working class nature of our neighbors. 

But...  that all important question... how are the schools?  I don't know.  We could talk about class size, socioeconomic status, ethnic make-up, things like that.  Would Noah's school rate very well, probably not.  And yet every school personnel there last night was helpful and friendly and seemed to truly be happy to be there.  I know there are fantastic schools where that's not always true.  Maybe the teachers in Noah's not top of the line school know they have to work a little harder for their students. 

I don't know.  We're taking this school thing one year at a time. 

Mornings

For most of the summer he wakes up between 7:30 and 8:30 and plays in his bed for a while.  This means I got to sleep in until 8:30!  Then we sort of hung out, I made coffee and he had apple juice.  We'd eat some sort of breakfasts, toast for me, granola or gold fish for him.  He'd watch lego videos on you.tube while I caught up on FB and news.  Very leisurely.
Just a few of those days left this summer. 

Noah has had to be at day camp at 9 am this week (and then will do another one week after next).  It's been good to get a feel for how our mornings will go when school starts.

First, I fully intend to get Noah an alarm clock as soon as possible.  Ok, that's still a couple of years away, but still... 

Now, when I go in to get him up, he's a little but awake, but still sleepy.  (We're working on earlier bedtimes as well!)  Then he decides it's time to go brush his teeth.  I talk him into peeing.  Then have to talk him into getting dressed.  We do some juice and snacks.  He's a slow eater, so this all takes 35-40 minutes.  This does not include time for me to make coffee or shower.  I have a feeling there will be a majority of mornings I don't shower before taking him to school.  Oh well.  I'm learning to live with that. 

I'm just glad he's happy when he wakes up, and his slightly ocd self will get the hang of a morning routine pretty easily, I think.

5 Whole Years!

Obviously, we don't write as much on this blog as we did the first couple of years of his life.  I'm sure facebook has a lot to do with that.  But I am so very happy to be able to go back and read those posts from Noah's first days/years. 

Our dear sweet boy turns five today.  This coming year will bring a lot of changes, I think.  But then, really, don't  they all?  He starts kindergarten in a month.  We're so glad he's had two years of preschool.  He's enjoyed them so much and they will help him with this big transition to "real" school.  He seems to be in this in-between state - becoming more mature and independent, but with lots of lapses.  I have a feeling all of those lapses will be gone in a year. 

One of the things I've been pondering is this mother/child relationship.  Right now, I know Noah better than most people ever will.  And yet, partly because of his speech and other delays, there is so much we probably don't know about him, his thoughts, and feelings.  But I know him.  And I know that will change as he grows older.  And, in some ways it won't.  One of the biggest reasons I'm able to know him so well, is I've gotten to stay home with him these first five years.  There are no words to express how grateful I am for that. 

He's a great kid.  Oh sure, in the past few weeks he seems to being turning 15 - not 5.  He's always been stubborn, but with more oomph lately.  Last night he was "so hungry" and wanted some snacks, like gummy worms, and we kept telling him he had to eat some "real" food first.  He busted out a perfect "FINE", twice.  (We're guessing he picked it up at day camp.) We stood firm, but it's also hard not to laugh. 

He still loves music, and cars and trucks and buses and all vehicles known to man.  He's sweet and bossy.  Fiercely independent but not brave. He loves to travel and stay at hotels.  When he finally gets to visit relatives, or they visit him - he's more than happy to hang out with them and let them love on him.  He still loves kids and playing and school and day camp.  And he can be a bit anal about things.  We're waiting for his ability to spot tiny pieces of trash on the floor to pay off when he keeps the house cleaner than we do! 

I can't seem to do him justice this morning.  As always, I just wish you could all hang out with him for a day or two.  He's a great kid. 

The End of Pre-School

I remember when Ching and I met with Noah's teacher and speech pathologist at Old Bridge and they told us they thought Noah would do better at the public pre-school for special needs kids.  We were a little surprised and upset walking out of that meeting.  But, we decided to trust them, that they knew Noah well enough, and knew both schools well enough, to know where he'd get what he needed.

We're so happy we made the decision we did. 

With Noah, and his lack of speaking back then, it was hard for us to know just what he was and wasn't capable of .  I think we knew his strengths, but not his weaknesses. 

So, today, and the last few days really, Ching and I have been so sad that this school year is ending.  Not only has Noah loved his classmates and teachers and staff, so have we.  We're almost convinced this is the best school year he will ever have. 

One thing we admire the most is the way they made such great projects out of such little resources.  They did that pretend plane trip back before Thanksgiving that was so much fun for Noah.  They had pretend winter/ice sports with paper plates as ice skates.  They took the field trip to Pizza Hut and made their own pizzas.  These last two weeks they've had a summer/camping theme.  They actually set up a tent in the classroom.  They had a fake fire but made real smores - and Noah loved them!  They pretended to go fishing.  And they had a big pool set up one day and all the kids wore their swimsuits so they could pretend like they were at the lake. 

Another great thing they did all school year was send home pictures they printed of Noah and his classmates during these activities.  Noah loves those pictures. 

I don't even know how to gauge the changes in Noah.  It's just so much.  We're up to understanding about 85% of what he says - 100% when he slows down and wants us to understand.  We're starting to see him use his imagination more.  He's just such a smart, sweet, stubborn, bossy boy!

His biggest weakness next year (other than the 7 hour school day for kindergarteners) is that he's so easily distracted.  When he was just months old, we'd have to prop up his car seat any place we took him to he could watch the world.  He's still that oh so curious boy.  He wants to know what every sound is, what everyone is doing. 

And my sadness comes in part because this is the last few months he'll be my "baby".  Yes, he's already a little boy, but kindergarten is a big change and I feel like after that he'll be more grown up.  I'm going to miss having him around like I'd miss my right arm.  But that also has me determined to make these next couple of months good ones, just hanging out with him and having fun. 

Soccer Season End

Last night, Noah's soccer team had an end of season party at Chuck E Cheese.  The parents decided to get all the kids little trophies for their hard work this season.  Our son got his first participation trophy.  And I'm ok with that.  It made him so happy!  He wanted to sleep with it last night. Ching talked him into putting it on his night stand.  When I went in this morning, it was on his pillow.  When he got up, he showed it to me again, and made a big deal of going down the hall, marching into his room, and presenting it to me.  Then he presented it to Peppa.  Then I talked him into putting it back on the table.

He was without question the worst player on his team - and that's not even including the first two games he refused to play!  But, he had so much fun.  After every game he would say "I loved it."  He liked going to practice.  I don't know that he had an actual conversation with a teammate, but he loved seeing them and playing soccer with them.  They were also very nice to him, they always made sure he got the after game snacks even though he was ready to leave and go get donuts!  As were the other parents who cheered him for his small accomplishments!  He liked his coach, who was also really great with him, patient with him, and helped him. 

We couldn't have asked for a better start to his participation in sports! 

Weather Boy

I've written before about how Noah loves to call Ching.  He'll call her in the morning if he needs to tell her something, or while she's at work, or especially if she's driving home and it's taking longer than he thinks it should.  He loves to talk on the phone.  He'll even call Granny and Pa! 

I love weather. (this isn't the change in topic it seems to be - well, it is, but it's related.)  I hate the weather channel, but I love weather.  I love knowing the ten day forecast - even in all it's uselessness.  I like knowing the temp and the humidity and the wind direction and speed - maybe one of the most important parts of the forecast. 

So, I've always talked to Noah about the weather.  In the mornings when I go to get him up, and I open his curtains, I usually remark on if it's sunshine or clouds, windy or rain, that sort of thing.  Then, he started to associate clouds with rain and storms, so we'd talk about that. 

For the past couple of weeks, he's started having me pull up weather.com and see what the weather's going to be.  He's learning the temperature numbers, the sun/cloud/rain symbols.  He checks out the hourly forecast for the day, and then the ten day. 

If we're downstairs, he likes watching the weather channel.  I hate they way they make weather all extreme and scary, but for now he doesn't really get that part. 

Sometimes, even a month or two ago, he'll stand right next to the tv when the weather is on and do all the motions of the weather person!  

Now, some mornings, he just likes to call Ching and tell her about the weather. 

You just never know what they're going to pick up on.