We finally met with the lawyer Saturday. She's very good. She still thinks that if it's at all possible we should delivery Pinhead in DC. Apparently DC has a fairly new law that's very beneficial to lesbian couples. (It doesn't help gay men because of something to do with surrogacy that I didn't really pay much attention to.) It seems that not only can I be on the birth certificate, we can also go to a judge and get a judgment ruling me as a parent. This is helpful because all states have to honor judgments.
Ok, so that's all good. But babies don't come on schedules - and we're finding it would be so much more helpful if they did!! We don't know when to schedule family to be here. They're not coming for the actual birth, but within the first month, so that's not terrible to schedule, but still.
But it seems there's going to be four possible hospitals we could end up at. There's the one close to home that we're mostly planning on. Then there's the one close to her office in case she literally works up to the last minute. Her commute to and from work can take from an hour to an hour and a half depending on traffic. So we're also putting the one halfway between work and home in the Garmin.
Now, the closest hospital is fifteen to twenty minutes - depending on time of day and red lights.
In optimum conditions, say at 2 a.m., we could be at the hospital in DC in forty minutes. That's certainly do-able.
The problem with not delivering at the hospital closest to home is that we're 90% sure none of the ob/gyn's we've been meeting with would deliver the baby. (We're going to ask at the next appointment.) But we're also pretty sure that's ok with us. We've met with each of the different ones once so far, and it's not like we're going to be attached to any of them.
The insurance company said all four hospitals are in-network, and that yes, you don't always know where you'll end up.
So the plan for now is to get to DC if at all possible, if not - well, whichever is closest.
Such a cute little round belly! If I put my ear against it, I can actually hear his thumping heart beat. I still smile every time I feel him wiggling around in there. Poor thing, I know it's got to be hard to get comfy! Nerdstar thinks it's funny that when we snuggle, he kicks me in the butt!
Last night he was kicking her bladder, so I tried moving him over away from it. Instead of moving, he stayed put and kicked her bladder even harder. Stubborn boy! I laughed.
This is the Ikea crib we put together yesterday. It was actually really easy to assemble, except that 4 of the screws were 1/4 inch too short, so we had to make a quick trip to Home Depot to get the right size. I'd rather deal with Home Depot than Ikea to get 4 screws.
We got this bumper at Ikea, too. We liked the fun animals.
The table and lamp are also Ikea. I actually put the table together by myself while Nerdstar napped.
Ok, so this is the toy box. My Dad made me this toy box when I was very, little. It's been several colors. I got the bright idea to paint it like this about 8 years ago when we first tried to have a baby. It's been an eyesore - but now it finally has a little boy's room to live in and liven up!
I had intended to get a white ceiling fan, then I saw this at Home Depot and once I got it home decided that using the four primary colors would sort of match the toy box and be kinda cool. It's all reversible, so it could be all white if necessary.
Last, but not least, this is a collection of stuffed animals I've had forever. Guess we'll see if he likes any of them.
You didn't think this blog was going to be 100% about how smooth this pregnancy has been so far, did you?
Thankfully, for the most part, my pregnancy has been obstacles free.....no morning sickness, huge upswings in weight, but as I venture into the third trimester, I am hitting some snags.
(This is the TMI part) Case in point, I think I've got my first brush with pregnancy hemorrhoid, and how I found out was as I wiped my rear from what I had thought was the conclusion of a bowel movement, there were blood (and lots of it) on the toilet paper!! Not only that, some of that blood had made its way into the toilet too. Not wanting to panic prematurely, I checked to make sure that the blood was coming from "the right place". The GF then checked WebMd to see what it is and assessed what we would do if the heavy bleeding continued...thankfully, it didn't.
Welcome to the third trimester!
It doesn't end here! Before I forget, I must tell you about the rashes which appeared on my chest, and part of my neck! I have no idea what they are, all I know is that they are itching a bit and I hope that they'll disappear soon, otherwise, I might just need to page the skin doc and see what's up.
Lastly, my "sensitive" region has been itching....and I have no idea why either. I called the ob/gyn nurse, who advised me to take benedryl for 5 days and if it's not getting better, then call back for an appointment.
Luckily, Noah Maxx is still active and wiggly despite all of my irritations. To which I hope that they'll only be temporary!